Not for the park tics. That's for active or retired. Ask a CM anyway. Not sure about the 40% off rooms, might want to check with a CM on that since I don't know his situation. But, if he qualifies for SOG and they're booked (which for almost every day for the rest of the year they are) call them and ask for "non-availability" and you should get and extra 20% off your hotel stay added to your package. Doesn't hurt to ask.

He is no longer active...but not retired...would I still be eligible?

Not sure if you knew but are you aware your boyfriend gets a free 5 day all park ticket and you + 4 others get a base for $99 with the option to add hoppers for $25 more AND 40% off your rooms?