[dznygrl]

Hi, my DC friends. I'm looking for all the pixie dust I can get. Please forgive my babbling, and to those of you who are patient enough to read this, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Most of you probably know I am getting married next week. I am marrying my Prince Charming in the city of Anaheim, and honeymooning in Disneyland.

So I shouldn't be needing pixie dust, right?

Don't get me wrong! I love Ryan with all of my heart, and I am so THRILLED that we are getting married next week! I know next week is going to be one of the most magical times of my life, sharing all of this with my parents, my sister, my best friend, and my new husband. I couldn't ask for anything more.

The problem does not lie in the wedding or the honeymoon. The problem for me lies in the fact that I have been unemployed since February, and am battling depression because of it.

I am also quite torn inside, because my dream of working for Disney has been continually pushed further and further away. (Mostly because I met my dream man and decided to marry him, LOL! I guess I'm at fault there.) I want to be an incredibly supportive wife, and it is by my choice that Ryan stays here in Oregon until he finishes his volunteer term with the fire station. I want him to do what's best for his future career. And in order to be able to get a full-time firefighting job when we move, Ryan also wants to go to college and get his EMT certification. So...here we stay.

I am being a supportive spouse on the outside, but on the inside I feel like I am being torn apart! I am just DYING to move, DYING to finally get even ONE CHANCE, just an INTERVIEW with Disney...but it keeps looking further and further away.

I just would appreciate any kind of pixie dust. Responses to this thread, e-mails, PMs, anything. At this point I just really need some support!

Thank you to everyone on this site who has motivated me to pursue my dream of keeping the Magic alive.

[karliebug]

You are just having a typical case of pre-wedding jitters. It's that "oh my god, my life is going to change forever, am I really doing the right thing" feeling. This is normal.Afterall, your life is changing and it will be a big adjustment for both of you. I suggest that after the excitement of your wonderful wedding and honeymoon, that you both sit down and list your goals for the next several years. Compare lists, and discuss the ways that you can work together to meet those goals. Marriage is a compromise, and it sounds as if you feel that right now, you are the one making all the concessions. It won't always be that way, there will be times in your marriage when Ryan will be the one who has to put his immediate wants on the back burner for the sake of you and your family unit. My advice is to look at the overall pictures of what you wish to accomplish together and then break it down into little steps that you can work on to eventually reach those goals. You'll be just fine. Relax. and Good Luck as you start your new life together.

[tiggerlover1971]

OK Kim breathe relax and enjoy next week ( I hardly remember the events leading up to my special day . Do you have a disney store near you ? If you do you can always just apply there for the time being.

[mickaholic4077]

Calm down and take a deep breath!(LOL) Can Ryan go to any college in the Orlando area to get his degree? Maybe he can research that. How long is his volunteer stint? If it is less than a year,I can understand him wanting to finish it;if it is more than that,then maybe he can be a volunteer in the Orlando area.

[karliebug]

Wow, or maybe he could join the WDW fire co.!Wouldn't that be magical? My DH always thinks about that when we go. He is a volunteer fireman here, we don't have paid firefighters.

[dznygrl]

Thanks guys. Okay, responding to some questions...

I don't have a Disney Store near me anymore. I wanted to apply there, but they took it away! The closest one is about 50 miles away. Which, honestly, I would have no problem commuting to, but they would be very disinclined to hire me because of the distance.

What else? Oh! Ryan's volunteer stint is officially over as of this November. Ryan wanted to move right after the wedding, for my sake, but I insisted that because he's so close, he should just finish it. As for the paramedic courses, he hasn't been able to find the ones he wants to take at an Orlando college yet.

And yes, it would be WONDERFUL if Ryan could join the WDW fire co.! In fact, that's what he would really like to do. If firefighting doesn't pan out (though I'm sure it will--he's the star volunteer around here!), then he would like to go back to school and/or work in WDW also.

As for me, I'm okay. Really. I just have this horrible, constantly-driving ambition to GO, GO, GO! and there is nothing I hate more than sitting around doing nothing. (Which is exactly what I've been doing for several months now.) I could wait patiently to work for Disney during the times when I was really busy, like in high school when I was involved in various clubs and (my favorite!) theater. Those things kept me occupied, so I felt like I was actually going somewhere. It's just these times where I'm doing nothing that I feel like I'm going to pull my hair out!!!! LOL.

Thanks guys! Even feedback from one person always helps immensely!

[aurora'stwin]

Kim, Does your town have any disney-only travel agencies? Maybe you could see about working for one of them at least for this summer (you know the busy season!) That way you can keep your mind busy while Ryan finishes with volunteering. Just a thought.
I know you're a postive girl, so don't let this brief period in your life get you down!!!

[dznygrl]

Thank you Laura! That's a great idea! I don't know for sure if there are any Disney-only travel agencies around here, but it is definitely worth checking out.

And thanks for the encouragement. I will never be completely beaten down, especially with my DC friends around! I just sometimes get a little overwhelmed...

[lawwin]

What about the University of Florida? You could live halfay in between. He could go to school and you could work at the mouse and you both could commute a little. It's a perfect soultion , but it is doable. Then, when he is finished it is possible that he could get a job at the mouse as well. This is just a first idea, but in this I would also recommend waiting for him to finish his volunteer work in November and go for Spring admission in Jan. 2004. Just a thought. You could look into it.

[Cinderellafifi]

((hugs)) The good thing about your situation is that there are so many options. If soon-to-be hubby wants to continue his schooling, he can certainly do that ANYWHERE. So, why not near where you have a career dream? Florida has tons and tons of schools! Both technical and traditional colleges offer paramedics courses, so he (and you) need to research the matter.

The University of S. Florida is located in the suburban part of Orlando, has a terriffic reputation, and really nice surroundings. That should be your first start. Should that not work out, there are so many other options that one of you could even commute to your destination.

Your dreams are just as important as hubby's are. And he will be happy only if you are happy. Sounds like a cliche', but in a marriage, that is one of the basics.

Talk things over with him. There is a solution to make you both happy in this situation. Good luck!!

[alextina]

One quick question. You said that you have been sitting around for the past few months, have you thought about going back to school? If I remember correctly you are fairly young and it sounds to me like your selling yourself short. Why not go back to school yourself, then when you and DH are finished with school you can pursue your dreams of living in Florida and working for the mouse. I think with a degree in both of your hands you would be in a much better position to move and get really great jobs working for the mouse. I realize that being a cashier at WDW is a lot different than being a cashier at a grocery store but don't settle just because you want everything right now. If you just sit down make a plan and stick to it the two of you will be in Florida with great jobs and a wonderful life before you know it. Good luck and please don't take this as criticism(?sp) it's just a bit of advice.

[JM0318]

Hi Dznygrl, The others are right, so just a short note. Sending lots of serious Pixie Dust and lots of Love your way... Everything will be ok and turn out the way you want I am sure of it. You are just overly worried due to the wedding being so close. Just remember, things will work out for the very best for you and Ryan. Judy

[dznygrl]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate everything.

I'm pretty sure Ryan would like to attend school in Florida, so hopefully we will move as soon as possible after he's done with his volunteer program.

In regards to *me* going back to school...well, it's definitely a thought. Unfortunately, (though I have never been diagnosed) I am positive I have adult ADD, and I just do NOT have the patience and dedication that school deserves at the moment. I also don't exactly have the money. I would love to go back to school later, but I'm afraid if I tried to do it now, I would end up wasting the money. (Which is exactly what I did when I started community college right after high school. I just couldn't stick to it. I spent all my time daydreaming of Disney.)

I know Ryan wants me to be happy, and for that I am thankful. I just need to keep praying for patience! It is most definitely a virtue I do not have!!!

[asp8tis]

Try to keep a lot of options open and don't rule out going back to school just yet. There are treatments available for adult ADD (you'd have to talk to your doctor to be sure that's what the problem is, not just Disneyitis ), so if you decided that was something you wanted to pursue, I know that you would be able to be successful at it. But if you're not ready for that yet, that's OK, too. It sounds like you and Ryan have a really bright future ahead, so try to focus on you're long term goals and don't get bogged down in the difficulties of the immediate future. You'll get through it! Good luck and my best wishes to you. November's not really that far away, it'll be here before you know it... flowers to you!

[MerlinMatt]

Originally Posted by dznygrl

Oh! Ryan's volunteer stint is officially over as of this November.

Hey Hula Queen!!!

This might sound a little corny, but 6 months is a mere blip in the larger scheme of things. Since you guys don't have a lot of expenses right now, why don't you just try to find a non-Disney job for the time being? Disney isn't going anywhere and I'm sure Mickey has patience.

I don't mean to over-simplify anything, but in all honesty, count your blessings. You're about to get married to a great guy, you have the support of your family and you have a very good idea of what you both want to do.

You both have it put together. You are SOOO far ahead of the game. Just relax and enjoy this very special time in your life.

*reaches behind his desk and pulls out the tin marked "only for emergencies," opens it and throws a fistful of pixie dust towards the Hula Queen*